The Gift of Comforting
A One-hour Talk
Listening with warmth and acceptance is one the greatest gifts we can give someone. We will explore what it means to be a comforting presence with current research on grief, empathy and social support, and discuss helpful ways to reach out to those in distress. This program will increase our understanding of how to use words of comforting (what to say and what not to say), as well as how to create acts of kindness.
Brave New Living: Building Friendships, Community, and a Sense of Belonging
A One-hour Talk
It takes courage and initiative to break out of a period of isolation and rebuild our support networks. After a serious illness, a period of grieving, or relocating to a new area, we may find it difficult to “get out there,” to be socially confident, outgoing, and open to new relationships. Simply going to a meetup might not feel right, as we may prefer volunteering, a support group, or a class. This program offers guidance for how to explore and tap our wider communities to build friendships, fellowships, and a deeper sense of belonging.
Restoring Our Compassion: Heartening News for Helping Professionals
A One-hour Talk
Even the most empathic, generous and kindhearted people among us experience compassion fatigue at times. We hear too much disheartening news, and we don’t seem to get enough support. We may feel numb and powerless, and neglect to restore ourselves. In this presentation, we learn from stories of highly inspiring professionals who found ways to restore their compassion in difficult times, and explore what it takes to spark our own. We also get a strong dose of heartening news from recent social science research, thanks to the Greater Good Science Center and other uplifting resources for helping professionals.
Self-Advocacy for People with Disabilities
A One-hour Program
As a Human Rights Trainer and Advocate (Department of Developmental Services Certification, Commonwealth of Massachusetts), I provide interactive activities, storytelling/drama and discussion to teach self-advocacy skills for people with intellectual disabilities. I also speak about self-advocacy for groups with people living with cancer and other chronic illnesses.
COURSES AND WORKSHOPS
Comforting Others: What to Say and Do
A Two-hour Workshop
This workshop is ideal for caregivers and professionals supporting people through grief, as well as for those coping with chronic illness, disability or aging. When called to comfort others, we may feel empathy and care deeply, but sometimes what to say or do can elude us. We will explore how to put compassion into action with practical examples of comforting at work and at home. We will review recent research on empathy, grief, and social support, and examine best practices for how to be helpful. We will discuss realistic ways to make commitments with others in need, and how to honestly set boundaries with our availability to help. Finally, we will share our stories of comforting others, or being comforted by others, and learn from each other’s experiences.
Keeping on an Even Keel: Managing Stress on the Job
A Two-hour Course
Every day has its challenges when too much happens at once, but we can release the tension we carry, even in a few minutes. In this course, we will explore mind and body stress management skills that take the edge off, so we can focus, pace ourselves, and communicate well with others.
What we will cover:
- Understanding our stressors and how we respond to stress.
- How to support co-workers and ourselves on extra-hectic days when everyone is stressed.
- Knowing our boundaries and limits, and making realistic commitments.
- Effective tension-reducers that work in minutes, to restore our balance.
- How to mentally guide ourselves in tense situations with positive self-talk and mindfulness practices.
Grief Support Group for People with Developmental and Intellectual Disabilities (provided on site)
One-hour Group, Meeting Monthly
Good Connections: Communication Skills Group for People with Developmental and Intellectual Disabilities
MOST REQUESTED SPEAKING/TRAINING TOPICS
- Comforting Others: What to Say and Do
- Building Friendships, Community, and a Sense of Belonging
- Self-Advocacy for People with Disabilities
- Keeping on an Even Keel: Managing Stress on the Job
Val Walker, MS